Friday, July 22, 2011

What Is Your Name?

Courage is not the absence of fear but realization of something greater than fear. -- Ghemi Efunuga.

      Every human being has (3) names. The first one is the name you inherited from your parents which is called SURNAME. The second is the one they gave to you at birth and the last is the one you gave yourself. Out of the three names, the most important one is the one you gave yourself. In our society today, we are familiar with some various names. In the time of challenges, there are some names that naturally ring bells especially when it calls for solutions. There are names that open doors, some will open gates and while some will open borders of nations but unfortunately we still have some that cannot even open windows. What is your name and how much respect can your name command? How much value does your name carry?

I saw a film recently popularly known as TROY. There was a young man called Achilles. Achilles was a warrior, hero and a gifted killer. He specialized in dethroning kings and rendering princesses useless. It paid allegiance to no nation and honored no flag. He was usually hired by kings. As a result of Achilles non allegiance to any nation, no king was in love with him, which he knew himself because he fights for his own personal glory. There was also this nation called Troy. Troy had a great wall which had never been conquered by any nation before. There came a time one of the kings Achilles usually fought for needed to conquer troy. So they came calling for Achilles to lead the battle. Achilles in his usual custom needed to consult his goddess mother in a place called Luriso. Then the mother told him saying "I knew they will come long before you were born, I knew they will come. They will want you to fight in troy, "mum tonight I decide"-said Achillies. If you stay in Luriso, you will find peace, you will find a wonderful woman, you will have sons and daughters, they will have children and they will love you but when you have gone, they will remember you, but when your children are dead and children after them, your name will be lost, But if you go to Troy, glory will be yours. They will write story about your victory for thousands of years; the world will remember your name. If you go to troy, you will never come home.........I should never see you again"

Achilles chose to go to troy but he could come back. No wonder some of the literature books people read today especially in secondary schools, students refer to the victory of Achiles. There are names that ring bells as long as the bearers are alive. But once they pass on, nobody remembers them any more. Some will last up to a century after the death of the bearers, some will last a millennium while some will last eternal. Abraham Lincoln of the United State has lasted over a century; Martin Luther King Jr has lasted over 5 decades. How far will your own name go even after you must have passed on? Names do not just ring bells on a mere confession; we must dare to do that which looks so impossible. God loves name makers. No wonder he regarded his people as "salt and light" to this world. Some of us will have to resign from our jobs to find our place of primary assignment before our names can be heard to the glory of God. Some people will not amount to anything in life except they are threatened. So they will want to prove people wrong.

Life is not all about duration but in donation. How impactful is your life to your immediate environment. Are you a blessing or a curse? God is not interested in mediocre. Mediocre are those who will prefer to live an average life to making impact. God loves darers and especially those who will leave posterity behind. Those who will take courage to go for what seems impossible. The scripture says in Exodus "and there arouse a king in Egypt that knew not Joseph" That was the genesis of the suffering of the children of Israel. Then I asked myself a question that " what could have happened or gone wrong with all the great and mighty things that were done in Egypt by the hand of Joseph that could have made his name suddenly disappeared like a smoke in the record book of Egypt? The answer I got was that though he was successful but the significance of the success was very limited. It was a battle of posterity.


We must all dare the impossible. We must all be persistent and consistent in faith in God even when obstacles and discouragement are obvious. Those who do not go in faith with God will always return with evil report. Life is all about decision making. There is a league of the conformists while we have another one called the tranformists. You must choose one but do not stay in the middle unless if you have decided to be deformed.



Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Living Outside the Bubble

If you didn't know you had a problem - Would You?
Every day we read and listen to people telling us how bad things are getting and how much worse they will get. What if you didn't listen to any of that and just went about your way happy in the knowledge that your life was moving forward as planned, and as needed.
No television, no Radio, no Newspapers, no Internet, telling and showing you the most attention getting, shocking things they can find in order to get your attention; like a spoiled child talking to loud in a quite room or someone who needs your attention in order to feel needed. They exist to sell you their emotional drug - you need not buy it!
The Republican Party is full of people who hate all of the unions and are all racist.
The Democratic Party is full of people who hate anyone with money and hate all companies.
The gas price is up and the oil companies are involved in a conspiracy to do something to all of us poor peons.
It is our duty as country to fight wars everywhere - it does not matter who wins - just fight.
Women hate men for keeping them down Men hate women for becoming more like men.
Whites hate blacks and blacks hate Hispanics and the Chinese are taking over the world.
Hate - Hate - Hate
WHAT IS GOING ON HERE?
What if all of the doom and gloom is a form of mental illness that over -takes a society when it loses its way and "exists to exist" to arrest your attention and control.
What would happen if you just enjoyed living - took walks and watched the sunrise and sunset each day, never the same, different and wondrous in the ever-unfolding change.
If you took 30 days off from the part you now play in/on the stage of your life and consciously avoided the weight of society - lived outside of the drama for 30 days - could you come back to the insanity of the play? Would you want to?
It's as if the carousel is spinning faster and faster - trying to throw everyone off
Try to live outside of the bubble for one month - it will not be easy and you may find that the world really has gone insane and there are very few people left who are not affected...

5 Reasons Why We Make Excuses

We all have the freedom to choose, and making up excuses is a choice too.
Someone Once Said:
"An excuse is worse than a lie, for an excuse is a lie, guarded."
We human beings make excuses all the time. We talk about what we want to change and make a million and one excuses as to why we cannot get what we want. If someone says to me, "I want to start exercising," and then proceeds to tell me 5 reasons why they can't, one being that they cannot afford a gym, I know that is just an excuse. While it may be true that they may not be able to work out like an athlete, some activity is better than nothing. If the person is able bodied, they can walk or hike and that is free.
 Heck, I am not excuse free. However, I can recognize when I am lying to myself and justifying my reason with an excuse. I am after all human. While I am not perfect, I am conscious and aware of my excuses.
Being awake is a gift and being aware of your excuses and then letting them go is something that you can learn to do.
The most popular excuse these days is, "I am too busy to do that." And it is true, we are all busier. However, we do make time for those things we want to do. Transformation requires new routines and most people are resistant to that. It is easier to justify it with an excuse.
There are 5 main reasons that we make excuses:
1. We make excuses because we do not want to face the truth.
2. We make excuses because we do not want to take responsibility.
3. We make excuses because it is easier to complain and stay a victim.
4. We make excuses because we are afraid of the unknown.
5. We make excuses because sometimes having our heads in the sand is easier.
But is it really?
Having our heads in the sand is like living a life with blinders on and not being able to see the wonderful things that come our way. We often spend so much time being afraid or living in the dark that the joys of a life of self love and honest realization seem to hard to get to. It is so much easier to just make up and excuse of why it can't be. Can you see how there is not much room to change when one lives in the land of excuses rather than the land of possibility? One way of being is liberating and the other very constricting. However, you can choose to make the change and stick to it. You can choose the land of possibility. That is the first step.

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

5 Books You Need to Read



1.) MIDDLEMARCH, by George Eliot. MIDDLEMARCH is a sharper, smarter, more tragic and hilarious PRIDE AND PREJUDICE.  An early 19th century tale about a girl who thinks she has it all figured out and then realizes she knows nothing, nothing, absolutely nothing at all, a situation I know too well as it has repeated itself enough times in my own life to form the most unfortunate of patterns. I have the hardest time picking my favorite book (it was a sweaty, teeth-gritted struggle to get it down to fricking five) but in the gun-to-the-head hypothetical, I pick MIDDLEMARCH. This book encapsulates the human experience for me. Or, at least, it encapsulates my human experience.

2.) THE PERKS OF BEING A WALLFLOWER, by Stephen Chbosky. If you are under the age of, I’m just going to arbitrarily say 28, you are yelling at the screen right now “YES, PERKS IS MY JAM.” A 90′s epistolary novel about a high school freshman boy writing anonymously to a stranger about his first year of high school, this book captures everything that is gorgeous and excruciating about figuring out how to be an adult when you weren’t even sure you knew how to be a child, discovering how to take an active role in your own life (hence, title), and learning how to belong to others and let them belong to you. This book is so f—ing exquisite I can’t even stand it. This should be the model that YA holds itself to, this and HARRY POTTER and A WRINKLE IN TIME and THE GIVER, but especially this.

3.) THE RAZOR’S EDGE, by Somerset Maugham. I was not ready to jump back into Maugham waters after OF HUMAN BONDAGE (I mean, it’s good and all, but if you’re raring for more Maugham after that you are either a librarian with six cats and/or insane.) I was working at an indie bookstore (rah, rah) at the time and a fellow employee practically pushed RAZOR’S EDGE on me. “No, I know about HUMAN BONDAGE,” he acknowledged, “Just trust me on RAZOR’S EDGE.” An early 20th century tale that follows Larry, an American pilot, traumatized by his combat experience in the first World War, who sets off on a messy, confusing, stumbling quest for meaning in life that none of his straight-laced friends (who narrate the story) can understand. As the chorus of “normals” suffocate in the confinement of their conventional choices, Larry actually turns out kind of okay in the end. The ultimate “F— everyone who says you’re crazy for being different and wanting more” book, this is the book for the times in your life when you feel lost or stuck and everyone won’t shut up about how you are lost and stuck and you need to believe that you aren’t crazy for wanting to beat your own drum as you walk down the road not taken.


4.) THE WIND-UP BIRD CHRONICLE, by Haruki Murakami. A Tokyo man loses his job, his cat, and his wife, and then things get REALLY twisty, dark, magical-realism nuts-crazy. I love all of of Murakami, I don’t care if he’s overexposed in the indie-reading community and everybody and their skinny-jeans-unwashed-hair-dour-expressioned-barista-by-day-bassist-by-night-boyfriend is obsessed with Murakami, I’m obsessed too, and this is his opus. He sends my imagination to the stratosphere and back, part novelist, part philosopher, part magician, I love Murakami and TWBC to itsy, bitsy heart-shaped pieces.



5.) THE VELVETEEN RABBIT, by Margery Williams. “It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.” This book, you guys. Just, this book. I can’t even be articulate. I’m crying so hard all over my keyboard right now. United States of America, are you listening? Turn off REAL HOUSEWIVES and please effing read this.